Our culture tends to equate superficial beauty as being attractive. When speaking of being attractive, we mostly think of the physical characteristics, for example, blonde hair, wide cheek bones, big breasts, or some other bodily features that have been depicted in the media as hot or sexy.

Undeniably, physical appearance definitely plays a key part in how attractive you are. And we do think it is important to work on your appearance as it reveals your inner qualities. But the equation of attractiveness doesn't just have the look only. Think about the people you feel attracted to. Are you only attracted to how they look? Probably not. It's about other things as well - the manner, the attitude, the outlook...

Confidence is Attractive

Confident people are infectious. Why not? They are happy. They smile more, communicate more openly and extend themselves to other people. Their self-assuring but not over-bearing attitude makes others feel secure. Are you content with who you are? Do you need someone else to make decisions or feel good about yourself? If you are not confident, tap into your inner self. Pinpoint the positive qualities and expand them. Find out your negative traits and overcome them. And once you become more assured of yourself, you will be more attractive.

Altruism is Attractive

We are all attracted to heroes (and heroines), in real life, cartoons, or TV shows. They help others without asking for any payback! Not only altruism signifies confidence, bravery, and strength, it also shows selflessness and care for others. We trust altruistic people because they place the welfare of others on an equal plane with their own concerns. And that is why altruism is one important trait that we consider in seeking a mate. Come on, who wouldn't want a partner to take care of him or her selflessly? This probably explains why women are attracted to chivalrous men and men are attracted to motherly women. Helping others does make you HOT!

Passion is Attractive

Having passion for life or what you do is attractive. There are too many people who live their life without a purpose or intentions, never showing much enthusiasm for anything. It's like they are just drifting through. On the contrary, people who love what they do and do what they love are extremely alluring. They are clear on all their values and goals, and where they stand on the issues that are important to them. They usually come off as having a lot of self-assurance in the things they do or say.

So pursue your interests. Take up hobbies and develop your skills. Do things that make you feel like you are creating or achieving something. Once you find your passion, you will find joy and become confident at what you love. And THAT is attractive!

Positivity is Attractive

A positive attitude is inspiring. Positive people make others feel confident and hopeful. Are you a glass-half-full type of person? Are you optimistic and upbeat? If not, we suggest you to focus on shifting your outlook. Learn to appreciate small things in your life. Look at the positive side of everything. Be constructive and cheerful. People will be attracted to your positive energy.

When it comes to dating and building a relationship, the physical and the not-so-physical part are both important. The latter is going to be more difficult to improve as it takes tremendous courage to examine yourself. But once you become the better of yourself, you will not only become more attractive, but also enjoy life more. So believe in yourself, help others, do what you love, and always look at the bright side of life. You will radiate and draw people with your magnetic charisma!